Mothers Wisdom

Look how cute you are cooking 
with Trouta the cat watching you.  

I have a few things that I say that make me think of you Mom.  I can hear you say "just walk real fast and swing your arms."  You would tell me that when I had a run in my hose or got something on the front of my shirt.  It took me a while to figure out how silly I would look, but it was excellent advice.

Every time I tell my dogs that they are "bad characters" I'm pretty sure you use to use that phrase with our pets, especially the bad character dachsunds. 

I can hear you say, "I need a drink."  I know you loved martinis.  It makes it sound like you were an alcoholic but you weren't but I like to say that too when I need a Diet Coke or a Dr Pepper Ten.

This is kind of the view that we had of the moutains. 

You loved to talk about the beautiful Chugach Mountains that we had such a view of.  In the fall the hot topic was the "termination dust," the snow, coming down the mountains.  It was an everyday conversation.  

I like to talk about clouds.  

I miss you. 

jody

P.S. I love you Mom

Christmas not so fun tradition

Christmas 1957 or 1958

Oh, I remember that I always wanted to have the tree and decorations up way earlier than we ever got to have them up.  Maybe that is why I start so early and decorate everything! 

We could get up early and see what Santa brought us but it was forever before we got to open gifts.  

We had to have breakfast, sit at a very nicely set table that had a little gift by our plates.  

Then DO THE DISHES, then GET DRESSED. 

 As you can see we were dressed in real clothes and Mother you had on a perfect outfit. 

 I bet it was afternoon before we could open gifts.  I just remember it being a killer waiting. 

 I quickly axed those tradition, feel lucky Schofield children and grandchildren.

jody

P.S. I love you Mom!

I think Mother you were a woman before your times.  

When my friends Moms were home you were a career woman with a lot of style.  

It was always a treat for you to come to school which wasn't very often.  I think I was in the 5th grade and you came to visit the school.  I can remember being so happy that my Mother was at school. 

You had a long patent leather purse with different colored pockets on the outside.  

My friends thought the purse was so cool 

therefor you were cool.
We didn't live very far from the school so I would walk home for lunch.  Sometimes I would get to ride my bike that I shared with Jana.  Since you were working you would have my lunch ready in the refrigerator.  Usually, bean with bacon sandwich, since I loved that soup.  But what I liked best was that you would have a note on a little tooth pick flag.

jody

P.S. I love you Mom!

A Tuna?

Tuna Club 1933 (16 years old)

"Disproving the old tradition that few sailors know how to swim, a Tuna Club was formed among the girl-seaman of the Lincoln High in 1933.  The cardinal purpose is to aid girls in becoming more proficient swimmers, divers, and life-savers, thus producing better material for student leaders and directors, and furthering interest in this sport.  The Minnows, a branch of the club, enables new mermaid s to obtain practice in swimming 6 lengths of the girls tank, in executing 3 dives satisfactorily, and in demonstrating 3 standard strokes.  All these are requirements for the Tuna Club membership."

You were a wonderful swimmer and diver.  Since our house was 100 feet up the hill from the Spa, an indoor swimming pool, we learned to swim early and spent many many hours at the pool.  I remember that you were a life guard and a swim teacher.  I always wanted to dive like you, a beautiful pointed toe swan dive, but I just never got it.

  Remember walking up the hill in the winter and our hair would freeze?  

I have lots of happy memories of swimming at the Spa,

 swim team and even being a swim teacher 

for my 7th grade P E class. 

 I must of got my love of the water from you, you Tuna!

jody

p.s. I love you Mom!

Such Class

You were basically a single parent.  Dad was gone and working out of town most of my growing up years.  I'm sure it was hard.  I don't remember you complaining. When Dad came home the sun rose and set on him.  We had to hurry and scurry around to make the house perfect.  He was our world. 

  What I mostly remember was that you never talked bad about Dad.  Even when you might of had a right to. 

 I so respect you for that.  He was our Dad.

1986 Dad, Ashley 9, Jessica 11, Mom

Dane and I brought Aaron 12,  Ashley 9, and Ethan 6 to Alaska in 1986.  Dad was visiting Jerry and Jessica 11, was in Anchorage with Jerry for a visit.  I can remember being so please that you and Dad were together for a visit and this was after both of you had been remarried for 15+ years.

Cousins

During that visit you took Ashley and Jessica to the store and bought them purple nail polish.  Ashley remembers it as her first purple nail polish, but not the last.  I see you in Ashley.  She has your style, your flash, your class.

1986 Mt Aleyska Aaron, Ethan, Jessica, Ashley, Mom (Gramma Pat)

jody

P.S. I love you Mom!

Travel Love

Mother, you opened up the world to me.  Your love of travel was passed onto all of us.  I know that you were able to touch all continents and travel around the world several times.  When you went to work for Air France you were able to open up travel for all of us.  

I have wonderful memories of the first time you took Judy, Jana and I to Paris.  I think I was 12 years old.  We  stayed with your Air France captains family right in Paris. 

One night after Jana and I went to bed

 you and Judy went out for french onion soup and we weren't very happy that we didn't get to go.

The trip to the Louve took forever.  You and Judy looked and pondered each and every picture and statue.  Maybe that is where you got your love of art, theater and fine dining.  That was one of many trips to Paris.

Yellowstone Park 1987

Trips to Hawaii were wonderful, climbing the ruins in Mexico with Vince sitting down on each step coming down, the market place in Jedah, Saudi Arabia, the beautiful blue water in Beirut, Lebanon, watching Old Faithful in Yellowstone National Park and

1974 Columbia Glacier

more.

Thanks for sharing the world with me.

jody

p.s. I love you Mom! 
p.s.s  Ethan reminded me that probably not the high light of the trip but the people that we stayed with in Paris had a biday.  I had never seen one or new what they were used for.  I thought it was a strange toilet and they never said anything about the "wash closet" down the hall.  We all took naps after arriving and I woke up and used the bidet as the toilet.  whoops!   I bet you were so embarrassed.  I think it is my most embarrassing moment.  Ha

Purple Love

When did you start to love purple? 

 We could buy you anything purple or a shade of it and you would love it.  Atleast you always acted like you did. 

You looked great in purple.  

  Every few years you bought a new car and a winter coat to match. No purple car but a purple coat. Coats? I always loved your mink coat.  Dane loved to put his arms around you when you wore that coat so he could pet it.

  I think when I was little you liked terquoise.  Our walls in our house were terquoise.  Maybe that was a little much.

Alaska Fireweeed was another of your favorite colors.  You looked great in fuschia.

You have such style.  Always looking your very best.  Always an outfit with matching jewelry.  You liked to wear lots of braclets.  I think of you each morning as I pick out which braclet I want to wear.  You never wore jeans.

One time when you came to Montana you brought your jewelry in little bags.  All neatly arrainged, with all the earrings, pins, braclets to go with each days outfits.   Ashley and I would lay on the bed and look and touch and try on your jewelry.  However, you would only let me wear your pearls, from Dad for only a few minutes.  Ashley would tell Aaron and Ethan that they weren't allowed to even come into the room because it was girls only. 

Your closet was organized by blouses, suits, slacks, and dresses.  Then you would organize it by color.  I think I learned the color organization from you.  Once when you and Dad went to Mexico on a trip I missed you like crazy.  I would sit in your closet, it had your smell.

jody

P.S. I Love you Mom!

The Favorite Son

1978

I don't know if Mother told me this story or I was present but this is what I recall.

  Jerry told Mother that he didn't believe in God.  Mother came unglued. "How dare you say that.  As a pilot you fly and see the beautiful creations in the world.  The beautiful sky, the sunsets, the mountains..."  Jerry listened then said,

"yeah I guess you are right."  

end on conversation.

March 7, 1998

"Jody and family: I just heard about Mom, it hasn't hit me yet that she's gone.  She has always been a big part of who I am.  It's like losing a leg but still feeling the toes.  She was my best teacher, best friend, and adviser.  Even after I left home I have constantly conducted my life for her approval. ... See you soon, much love, Jerry"

How could he not be the favorite son?

jody

P.S. I love you, Mom!

We don't look anything a like

1982 jody 31, Mother 65

Are you sure you are my Mother? 

 We don't look anything alike. 

 You are a winter and I am a fall.  You have pink skin, very light complected and I have tons of freckels. 

 You sunburn  and I tan.  

You have brown eyes and mine are blue.  

Your hair is black and I had auburn hair. (not sure what color it is now)   

I'm much taller than you.  

Where did I come from?  

You are the party, the light in the room, the flash, the glitter, the gold lame. You love being the center of attention, not me I am happy to sit in the back and wear cute shoes. 

I have your skunk streak.

I am yours!

jody

p.s. I love you Mom!

Service was your middle name

You taught me about "Service" and how to serve by your example. How to give of your time, and how to loose yourself in service to others.  I know that when you are in the service of others you are in the service of your God.  You gave of your time to many organizations.  

You were my Girl Scout leader. 

 I remember every Saturday before Easter we would help with the Easter Seal Campaign for the Alaska Cripple Children's Association.  We would stand out in front of the grocery store with a donation bucket and hand out paper red poppies.  I can see you counting all the money that was collected.

Vince & Oscar 1979

You gave of your time to the Alaska Society to the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals.  I think you must of really like animals because you always let us keep the cat or dog that we brought home.  Jana brought home our first wiener dog Sturmish and we got to keep him.  Marc and Greg brought home Oscar and I brought home our cat Trouta.  Good job Mom for letting us keep these pets!

"Order of the Rose" 1975

 

You loved your association with Beta Sigma Phi and the service that they gave to others.  I can see you now in a long formal getting ready to go to a formal dance and you being named the "Sweet Heart" or the new President. 

I have fond memories of going to the Mother Daughter fashion show.  One year I was probably about 10 years old you made yourself, Jana and I spring color matching gingham dresses.  We got to model our dresses in the fashion show.  I always wanted to go with you and bring my daughter.
I also remember one time you made a huge sprimp salad for a function and dropped it and the huge bowl broke.  I don't think we scooped it up but we should of.
jody
p.s. I love you Mom!

I'm Your Favorite

  You just always made me feel important.  What I was saying or doing you were interested. I think you were happy with the way I turned out and the choices that I have made in my life.

 I know that you love me.

 (I'm sure Judy, Jerry and Jana feel the same way.)

jody

p.s. I love you Mom

Today would of been your  96th birthday! 
 Well on the 9th of June.  Your birth certificate says that you were born June 6, l917 in Puyallup, Washington.   We always celebrated your birthday on the 9th.  I wonder why, maybe something mysterious.  As I look at your birth certificate I see that your father,

W.E. Gwynn age 32 worked for the city and your mother Grace Payne age 30 was a housewife.  Baby number 3 and I bet your parents were so excited.  If your birthday really was June 6 that means you spent 3 more days on earth than you thought.  
You have been gone now 15 years as you left us March 6, 1998.  I miss you, sometimes a lot! 
 I panicked the other day thinking that I am forgetting you. 
 I will never forget you but maybe things about you as I get older.  But you are part of my soul and the person that I am.  I see your face.  I see your smile.  I even know your smell.   I hear your voice but I can't remember your laugh. I want to remember you and things about you always. 
 So we are going to write our memories of you.

jody

p.s. I love you Mom!